What to Expect from Counselling

I challenge myself to be the best I can be for my clients and always consider what will work for each individual.  I do not make people fit a pre designed programme of change. People are individuals each with unique thoughts and my counselling takes account of that.

I am passionate about counselling and I am committed to helping people make the changes, they chooose, to live in a happier more fulfilled way. I am a supportive caring warm person who will not judge or condemn but gently help individuals or couples find their way through confusion, loss, anger, shame, numbness, anxiety, mistakes, truama, sadness and many other experiences and emotions.

I have completed university level courses which consider many different areas of construct of self, mental health and wellbeing and how we all relate to each other in a deeper sense. Counselling is a proactive endeavour involving many elements.

At its most basic level there are three elements. Firstly, a persons internal world and sense of self, secondly, how this translates into a persons interactions within relationships with others, and thirdly, how a person feels in the larger context 'their place within society' - their identity. These three areas help define how we think and behave in our world both internally and externally and therefore defines our reality. I can help people better understand why they feel 'stuck' in certain situations and with certain ways of thinking. I can help a person or a couple gain understanding and look forward with hope and with change. 

I have experience of working with people with a large range of issues.  Below I include just some of the areas my clients and I have worked on together.

Depression, anxiety, grief, suicidal thoughts, bereavement, relational problems, separation, divorce, conflict, affairs, self harm, stress, loss, self esteem, family issues, childhood trauma or abuse, secrets and trust issues, substance misuse, low confidence, loneliness, panic attacks, lack of purpose, sense of discontent, anger,  parenting, shame, guilt, adult trauma, and communication.

The first session is called an initial assessment. I will tell you about how I work, explain confidentiality, and answer any questions you may have. You will have the opportunity to tell me what has brought you to counselling and what you hope to achieve. Sometimes people aren’t quite sure what exactly is wrong or their goals and this is fine too. If at the end of this first session we agree to continue we will arrange to meet weekly. Some people come to counselling for a few sessions and others do long term work spanning many months. We can work together to decide how you would like to utilise counselling.

I work in a integrative way this means I have training in several different areas of counselling and I will use skills that I think will be of most help to you. My foundation is in humanistic counselling which I integrate with systemic therapy, narrative theory, and attachment theory.  I will ask you what has felt helpful and how you prefer to work and be lead by what feels right for you. I do not give advice or tell you what to do. I believe you have all the answers and its about finding them from inside yourself. Equally I respect your autonomy and will only go at a pace and in a direction that you feel comfortable with.
 

Couple Counselling

Couple counselling works in the same way as individual counselling in the sense that the above description of counselling holds true. However as there are two people in the room there are two different perspectives, two different lots of lived experiences, assumptions and expectations. My couple counselling aims to keep a respectful balance between both people and give them an equal voice.

Couples come to counselling for a vast aray of reasons. Some people just feel that the relationship needs a bit of a MOT to help improve things and only want a few sessions. Other people come at a time of crisis, for example when an affair has been discovered. Some couples have been struggling with a issue for many years which has stopped the relationship being what they would like it to be. Others feel that the relationship has become jaded leaving them unsure of their feelings, 'I love you but I am not in love with you'.

Trust, poor communication, bereavement, infertility, financial struggles, parenting, mental health issues, divorce, illness, childhood experiences, conflicting expectations or needs, as well as many many other issues can all impact on a couples relationship and leave people feeling discontent.

Though I work with people on a broad range of issues I do not work with couples where there is ongoing domestic violence as I feel that a specialised agency is a more appropriate and helpful service.

In couples counselling many issues can be facilitated depending on what areas a couple highlight as important to them.

It can be helpful to consider communication styles, conflict styles and listening skills to help with insight and improve the relationship. Intimacy and closeness can also be considered as diminished intimacy can often occur in relationships.

It can be useful to aid understanding and communication to do an exercise here and there between sessions or agree ideas to implement within the relationship. All of the counselling work is done in a way and pace which is comfortable for my clients.  

I have experience of working with people with a large range of issues.  Below I include just some of the areas my clients and I have worked on together.

Depression, anxiety, grief, suicidal thoughts, bereavement, relational problems, separation, divorce, conflict, affairs, self harm, stress, loss, self esteem, family issues, childhood trauma or abuse, secrets and trust issues, substance misuse, low confidence, loneliness, panic attacks, lack of purpose, sense of discontent, anger,  parenting, shame, guilt, adult trauma, and communication.
  
If you have any questions you are welcome to email, text or leave a voice message and we can arrange a phone call. See my ‘contact me’ page.
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I am happy to answer any concerns or queries you may have. You can ring, email or text me to arrange a meeting or to have a discussion about your needs.
 
Mobile: 07717 940 116 or use the contact form to email me.